There’s a pattern emerging in our society that becomes increasingly apparent with age, wisdom, and careful observation. It reveals itself most visibly online—particularly on social media platforms like Facebook—where a certain demographic tends to congregate. These are typically individuals over forty-five who came through the public education system believing they received a quality education. They present themselves as conservative, church-going Christians with traditional values. They proudly display their political affiliations, attend school board meetings, and participate in community events. Let me be clear: these are not bad people. They’re hardworking, law-abiding citizens who pose no physical threat to society.
However, there’s a critical distinction that becomes evident when you’ve committed yourself to deep study—reading history books and philosophical texts rather than consuming mainstream media narratives. Those who develop genuine wisdom understand that Fox News, despite its conservative veneer, remains part of the mainstream media apparatus. The subtlety of its manipulation is precisely what makes it dangerous. While it’s easy to identify the blatant delusions promoted by CNN or MSNBC, the nuanced deceptions of supposedly conservative outlets often go undetected by those lacking the depth of knowledge that comes from serious study.
The Crisis of Modern Masculinity
What we’re witnessing is what I can only describe as subtle cuckery. It manifests in grown males—often married, church-attending Republicans—who present themselves as traditionally-minded but reveal their compromised masculinity through their behavior and language. You’ll find them posting pictures of dinner plates, lavishing excessive praise on their wives’ cooking or homemaking skills. Is there anything inherently wrong with appreciating your wife? Of course not. But there’s something beneath the surface that speaks to a deeper issue.
This pattern traces back to the feminist movement and its catastrophic effect on masculinity in our society. We’ve stopped raising men. Instead, we have a society full of what I call “post-pubescent boys”—biological males who never developed into true men. The violent criminal who committed that stabbing in Frisco? That’s a post-pubescent boy. He’s male, certainly, but he’s not a man by any meaningful definition.
Our society is filled with males lacking true masculinity. Most have been domesticated, beaten down by their wives or girlfriends, desperately seeking female approval at every turn. I know this pattern intimately because I lived it for many years. It’s embarrassing and emasculating to admit, but transparency demands honesty. Everything I discuss comes from personal experience, extensive reading of the Stoics and Scripture, and careful observation of society’s decline.
America faces an existential crisis: we have run out of men. Real men. Traditional, masculine, straight men who embody the virtues that built Western civilization. These men are physically strong and capable, not because they’re vain, but because they understand their fundamental role as protectors. They maintain their bodies as instruments of that protective capacity. While there are legitimate exceptions for those with physical disabilities, the general principle stands: real men are strong because strength is necessary for the fulfillment of their purpose.
The Three Pillars of Masculine Duty
A real man embraces three fundamental responsibilities that define authentic masculinity. These priorities may shift in their immediate importance depending on circumstances, but all three remain essential:
1. Protector
The first and perhaps most primal responsibility of a man is to protect those under his care. This requires a warrior mindset—not reckless aggression, but prepared vigilance. A real man is always armed, always ready. I personally never go anywhere without both a knife and a sidearm. This isn’t paranoia; it’s preparedness. It’s an acknowledgment that threats exist and that my primary duty is to stand between those threats and my loved ones.
Males who lack this protective instinct, who haven’t cultivated the skills and mindset necessary for this role, haven’t embraced a fundamental aspect of masculinity. They may be biologically male, but they’ve neglected a core element of what makes a man.
2. Provider
The second pillar of masculinity is the role of provider. A real man must be an exceptional provider for his family. This doesn’t happen overnight—it takes years of discipline, skill development, and hard work. Young men who have been fortunate enough to have strong masculine fathers and feminine mothers may achieve financial stability by their early twenties, particularly if they’ve avoided the indoctrination of public education and the wasteland of modern college.
More commonly, men develop their provider capacity between twenty-five and thirty, assuming they’ve been guided toward productive paths rather than the soul-crushing mediocrity promoted by our feminized educational system.
A true man’s provision means his wife doesn’t submit to another man in the workplace. This may offend modern sensibilities, but it aligns with both biological reality and Biblical teaching. A man’s wife submits to him alone, as Scripture clearly instructs. This isn’t about domination but about natural order and spiritual harmony.
3. Spiritual Leader
The third essential quality of a real man is his spiritual foundation. I believe a man must be a Christian to fulfill his masculine potential. The stoic qualities demonstrated by Christ and His apostles provide the necessary temperance to masculine strength. Without this spiritual anchor, a man’s protective and providing capacities can become distorted toward selfishness or tyranny.
Christianity provides the moral framework that guides a man’s strength toward service rather than domination. It reminds us that while we must be powerful, we are not ultimate power itself. This spiritual humility balances masculine strength with necessary restraint.
The Feminization of Christianity and Society
What many fail to recognize is how thoroughly feminism has infiltrated even conservative circles. Many women who proudly wear MAGA hats and vote Republican still fundamentally embrace feminist principles. This creates the environment of subtle cuckery we see today, where ostensibly conservative men defer to feminine sensibilities in hopes of validation.
These men often embrace a feminized version of Christianity that emphasizes traditionally feminine virtues like unconditional acceptance while neglecting the masculine virtues of judgment, discipline, and protection that are equally Biblical. They seek female approval by adopting language and positions that appeal to women, particularly the type of women who assume spiritual authority despite clear Biblical instructions to the contrary.
True masculinity isn’t governed by feelings—it’s logical, pragmatic, and principled. The Bible itself warns that the heart is deceptive. Masculine thinking prizes truth over comfort, reality over sentiment. This isn’t a deficiency but a different and complementary way of engaging with the world.
The Historical Roots of Our Crisis
What we’re witnessing today didn’t happen overnight. We’re five to seven generations deep into a social experiment that began in the late 1860s with the suffrage movement—a movement that, upon serious historical investigation, reveals disturbing occult and even satanic origins. Rachel Wilson’s research on Occult Feminism documents these connections extensively.
Since then, each generation has raised increasingly feminized boys and increasingly masculine girls, creating the inverted social order we see today. The problems plaguing our society—from family breakdown to political dysfunction—can be traced back to this fundamental disruption of natural gender roles.
Those who haven’t studied this history, who haven’t read the books and examined the evidence, simply don’t understand the depth of the problem. They rely instead on mainstream narratives, social media simplifications, and the intellectual laziness that characterizes our age.
The Path Forward: Reclaiming Authentic Masculinity
Despite the grim assessment, there remains hope for reclaiming authentic masculinity. It begins with recognizing the problem and committing to change, regardless of age or past failures. I spent most of my life without understanding what true masculinity entailed, but that realization became the starting point for transformation rather than the final word.
For men seeking to reclaim their masculine identity, the path requires:
- Intellectual discipline – Turn off the television, especially news programming, and read substantive books on history, philosophy, and theology. Develop the mental framework to recognize subtle manipulation.
- Physical development – Build strength not for vanity but for capability. A man’s body is an instrument of his protective duty.
- Spiritual foundation – Embrace Biblical Christianity without the feminist distortions that have crept into modern church culture. Study Scripture directly rather than relying on compromised interpretations.
- Financial independence – Develop the skills and discipline to provide abundantly for your family without requiring your wife to submit to external authority in the workplace.
- Protective capability – Acquire the skills, tools, and mindset necessary to protect those under your care. This includes both physical training and appropriate armament.
True masculinity isn’t toxic—it’s essential. The absence of real men creates the vacuum that has been filled by chaos, weakness, and societal breakdown. As Marcus Aurelius taught, “Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” This stoic wisdom cuts through theoretical debates about masculinity and calls for embodied action.
The Spiritual Warfare Behind Gender Confusion
What we’re experiencing isn’t merely a social trend but a manifestation of spiritual warfare. The systematic destruction of authentic masculinity serves dark purposes. Without strong men, families collapse. Without strong families, communities disintegrate. Without strong communities, the nation falls.
The Old Testament warrior ethos—exemplified by figures like David, who was both a fierce warrior and a man after God’s own heart—has been deliberately erased from our cultural consciousness. Modern church culture often presents a sanitized, feminized Jesus rather than the table-flipping, whip-wielding Son of God who confronted corruption with righteous strength.
This spiritual dimension of the masculinity crisis requires spiritual solutions. Prayer, Scripture study, and covenant brotherhood with other men committed to authentic masculinity provide the foundation for resistance against these dark currents.
Conclusion: A Call to Masculine Restoration
The path to recovering authentic masculinity won’t be easy or popular. It requires swimming against powerful cultural currents and risking social disapproval. But the alternative—continuing the slide into masculine irrelevance—is far worse.
For those offended by these perspectives, I invite self-reflection. Why do these ideas provoke such a reaction? Could it be that they challenge deeply held but unexamined assumptions about gender and society? Could it be that they expose uncomfortable truths about our collective departure from natural order?
Most people alive today have never encountered a truly masculine man—a warrior, provider, and spiritual leader who embodies these qualities without apology. This absence explains much about our current dysfunction. Only men can raise men, which creates a cyclical problem when authentic masculinity has been so thoroughly suppressed.
Yet there remains hope. Each man who commits himself to this path of masculine restoration becomes a point of light in the darkness, potentially inspiring others toward authentic manhood. This isn’t about domination or selfishness but about fulfilling the divine design that has sustained civilization throughout history.
The time for theoretical debates has passed. Now is the time for action—for men to rise up, embrace their God-given masculine identity, and restore the strength that families and communities desperately need. This isn’t optional; it’s essential for the survival of everything we value.
As we stand at this crossroads of history, the question for every man is simple but profound: Will you continue in comfortable mediocrity, seeking female validation and avoiding difficult truths? Or will you embrace the challenging but rewarding path of authentic masculinity, becoming the protector, provider, and spiritual leader you were created to be?
The future of our families, communities, and nation depends on how men answer this question. The time for choosing has arrived.
